On Tour with On Loving by Lili Naghdi and Meet the Author

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The book is On Loving by Lili Naghdi, a romance.

In 1972, Dr. Rose Hemmings has just finished her general surgery residency when a haunted stranger is shot in front of her in a New York City bar, and their lives become forever intertwined. And when, having been given the blessing of her adoptive father on his deathbed, Rose travels to prerevolutionary Iran to discover the past her American family kept secret from her, she finds a true Pandora’s box. It is a world both foreign and familiar, in which her primary place is as the heiress to a great tribe. In Iran, Rose will find family she never dreamed of, her own people, and a man who loves her as passionately as he does the rare black roses of his garden. She will return to the United States carrying a new secret and torn between two men: the one she loves helplessly, and the one who loves her unconditionally.

Woven throughout with Persian poetry ancient and modern, On Loving is the story of one woman’s lifetime of love and loss, of societal change in a nomadic people, and of overcoming personal challenges, including mental and physical health, to find true contentment. Above all, it is a story of love: its physiology, psychology and philosophy; the many forms it takes; its myths and truths; its challenges, its joys and its gifts.

Othe buy links: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/on-loving-lili-naghdi/1130591456

Book Launch

It was a beautiful late spring afternoon in Paris, and I decided to stroll down the streets of this lovely city as much as I could, to calm my nerves after that emotional talk.

Walking at a slow pace, through the charming cobbled passages and tree-lined avenues of the mesmerizing City of Love, I easily found my way to the Café de la Rotonde, my favorite café to spend time in whenever I’m in Paris. I love being in bustling Montparnasse, where Hemingway, Fitzgerald, Picasso and many others took their coffee breaks many years ago. Sitting there, I always feel that I can hear their voices or even smell in the air the tobacco they smoked. Being a huge fan of literature and art since childhood, being in that environment for even a few minutes often led me to think how it might feel to create a masterwork or to write something as captivating as they once did.

I was about to sip my coffee when a young woman sitting at the table close to mine suddenly left in a rush, forgetting her newspaper and cellphone.

“Excusez-moi, madame?” I took the newspaper and phone and followed her, hoping to catch up before she completely disappeared in the crowd, but it was too late.

Back at my seat and handed the phone to the waiter while glancing at the newspaper’s front page:

Des millions de la Reine Soraya Esfandiari-Bakhtiari iront à la charité

“Queen Soraya Esfandiari-Bakhtiari’s millions go to charity”

I quickly asked the waiter to let me keep the paper.

I sat on my chair, staring at the title again. I felt as if I had stumbled on a familiar face, as if I knew her intimately. I touched her photo: her beautiful eyes, her lovely smile. Everything about her was unique, even thirteen years after her death in Paris in 2001.

Then, shaking inside, I read the report.

Princess Soraya Esfandiari-Bakhtiari, born in the city of Isfahan in 1932 to an Iranian father from the well-known Bakhtiari family and his German wife, had died childless back in 2001. But now a court in Germany had ruled that because her brother, who lived there, had died before settlement was finished, her entire $6 million estate should be divided among the three charities she’d chosen — the Red Cross, a group that worked for animal protection and a disabled rights group. The article talked about her time as queen, her beauty, her stunning emerald eyes and how she’d be known as the “Princess with the sad eyes” after the last king of Iran, Mohammad-Reza Pahlavi, divorced her in 1958 for not producing an heir. Yet much of her wealth had come from jewellery he had gifted her; he loved her deeply.

Wait a second!

I quickly wiped the tears that ran down my face, trying to stay calm. But it wasn’t the deceased former queen I was mourning. It was my own past, surging up from beneath the dust that had covered it for years, that made me so emotional. The former queen’s distinctive name and her story reminded me painfully of the love I had shared in my heart for many years, the love that had changed my destiny in so many ways.

Drenched in cold sweat, I rested my forehead on the newspaper, feeling the hard table beneath it.

Life is so mystifying. After all these years … The gracious Queen Soraya … my distant relative! We shared genes, ancestors … I know … I know well the very place she was born in, I’ve been there — Isfahan, the ancient city of Isfahan, City of Roses … city of my own beautiful black roses!

I felt like I was choking and struggled to breathe. I needed fresh air. I put money on the table and rushed out of the café.

AUTHOR Bio and Links:

Lili Naghdi is an Iranian Canadian physician who was born and raised in Tehran. She continued her education and research after moving to Canada with her husband and daughter in 1996. Today she practices family medicine in Vaughan, Ontario, with particular interests in women’s and mental health. Being a family physician gives her the privilege of connecting with patients and participating in their care with a deeper understanding of the physical, emotional and social adversities they face. Interacting with people of many different backgrounds has also provided Dr. Naghdi with the opportunity to grow as a person, a physician and an author.

Growing up in pre- and post-revolutionary Iran, Lili became fascinated by the magical realm of literature, poetry and history. She began collecting prized quotations at the young age of eight. Dr. Naghdi has written poetry and short stories in both Farsi and English, but she eventually followed William Wordsworth’s advice to “Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart,” and turned to fiction.

On Loving is her first novel. Inspired by both the ordinary people she has the honor to support and by the great literature of Persia and the world — from Hafez to Forugh Farrokhzad and from John Steinbeck to Margaret Mitchell — Dr. Naghdi passionately agrees with Boris Pasternak, whose Yuri Zhivago is a physician and patriotic poet, when he writes: “Literature is the art of discovering something extraordinary about ordinary people and saying with ordinary words something extraordinary.”

Hi Lili, and thank you for being here today.

Can you tell us more about your latest release?

“On Loving” is a novel and a love story but more importantly, it’s a story about love itself. As a woman and an avid women’s rights advocate, I wished to dedicate this work to the loving memory of the late popular yet controversial Iranian poet, Forugh Farrokhzad, known as Iran’s Sylvia Plath, a brazen woman who tirelessly pursued the intricate task of revoking the taboo on love, womanhood and related issues in the culture and society of her time. This work is also dedicated to all the women around the globe who have been attesting taboos and discrimination against women and fight for women’s rights through their voices, through their works of art and through their own professional achievements. On Loving is the story of one woman’s lifetime of love and loss, of societal change in a nomadic people, and of overcoming personal challenges, including mental and physical health, to find true contentment. Above all, it is a story of love: its physiology, psychology and philosophy; the many forms it takes; its myths and truths; its challenges, its joys and its gifts. Rose’s life journey as an accomplished, modern woman, who follows her dreams, beliefs and her heart while trying to evaluate her own emotional changes and growth through the story, leads her to self-awareness and self-scrutiny. A journey for her to know herself, her strengths and her weaknesses and appreciate what she can achieve, having the privilege of being a woman, and being able to get in touch with her inner self and her emotions.

Do you ever wish you were someone else? Who?

Not really! I always think that I have to live my own life and to see where my ventures take me to. I admire many people for who they are or what they do or did, but I’m happy in my own skin.

What did you do on your last birthday?

I woke up at 6 am, listened to my favorite songs from the 80’s after taking the shower and while getting ready for work. I worked with my patients in the morning, then had a quick lunch with two good friends of mine and continued working till 5 pm. I had my close family over for dinner and enjoyed spending time with them. After they left, I watched a movie with my husband and daughter.

What part of the writing process do you dread?

When I write about a sensitive topic which I’ve never experienced it myself. I always worry if I would be able to express the real feelings of the real people who experienced that horrible ordeal. I want to make sure I’m reflecting the extent of the realities around that topic in a correct and sensible manner.

Do you ever suffer from writer’s block? If so, what do you do about it?

I think I was really lucky since I didn’t experience any writer’s block while working on “On Loving”, but what always brought me back to the mood for writing after a day of working with my patients and dealing with my work issues was listening to my favorite music that helped with my emotional status. Music has always had this incredible effect on me! Particularly, listening to the beautiful declamation of On Loving (the poem) while driving back from work was incredibly inspiring to me.

Website:  www.lilinaghdi.com

Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/44310723-on-loving?from_search=true

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pg/lilinaghdiauthor/posts/?ref=page_internal

Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/naghdil/

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Barnes and Noble Author URL: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/reviews/books/1130591456?ean=9781999497002

This stop is part of a bigger tour. The tour dates can be found here: 



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  1. Hello everyone,

    This is so wonderful and I am so excited to join you today on the third stop for my virtual tour.
    I’d like to thank our host, dear Viviana, for giving me this opportunity to be able to get in touch with you through her lovely blog which is one of my favorites.
    I also would like to thank “Goddess Fish Promotions” for coordinating the tour and particularly this stop.
    As you may find out from the blurb, “On Loving” is not only a love story but more importantly, it is a story about love itself, its physiology and philosophy, the many forms it takes, its myths and truths, its challenges, its joys and its gifts.

    I would like to ask everyone this question and I’d really appreciate everyone’s participation through the day today:

    How do you define “LOVE” in your own words and based on your own experiences?

    “On Loving” is the story of one woman’s lifetime of love and loss, and of the true meaning of love, and this “true meaning” could be different for different people.

    So … can’t wait to get your answers!


    Lili Naghdi

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    • That’s such a great question! I think love is merging, blending, you and another person to form a third entity that’s strong and bright. It does not mean losing something of yourself as both people in it are an essential part of it. It means making something together, something you can’t touch but it’s as real as the sun.


      • Beautifully said! In other words, LOVE is an important factor in anyone’s personal growth. You learn how to become giving, forgiving, selfless, grateful, etc., since LOVE invites you to know your pure emotions and get in touch with them closely.

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  2. What an amazing book and journey! I’ve read your book and really enjoyed the story. I couldn’t put it down! You took me to the world I once experienced myself! You refreshed the way I felt once when I first fell in love.
    I also liked the way you used literature and quotes from my favorite authors.
    You asked us to define love …
    LOVE is the essence of life. That is my impression of love.
    Great job! Waiting for other works of yours!

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    • I’m so touched by your comment and I thank you for your genuine feedback. Also, I’m so happy to see that Rose’s story was a reminder of a beautiful, incomparable emotion called “love” for you! I certainly agree that with the fast pace of life these days, It is so hard to remind ourselves of how we once felt, but we would never forget that wonderful feeling in a million years.Thanks for participating. Good luck with the draw!

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    • Thanks for joining us. Not really! I wanted to choose something meaningful, directly related to my story that could honor Forugh Farrokhzad, the controversial Persian contemporary poet, one of my favorites. So I chose “On Loving” which is the title of one her most beautiful poems. I’m adding a part of “On Loving”, the poem, here (translated by Sholeh wolpe) for your kind attention:

      …Do you know what I want of life?
      That I can be with you, you, all of you,
      and if life repeated a thousand times,
      still you, you, and again, you.

      Concealed in me is a sea:
      how could I hide it?
      How could I describe
      the typhoon inside?

      I’m so filled with you
      I want to run through meadows,
      bash my head against mountain rocks,
      give myself to ocean waves.

      I’m so filled with you
      I want to crumble into myself like a speck of dust,
      to gently lay my head at your feet,
      cling fast to your weightless shadow.

      Yes, so love begins,
      and though the road’s end is out of sight,
      I do not think of the end
      for it’s the loving I so love.

      Now … do you agree with my choice for the title?!
      Good luck with the draw!

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    • Thank you for your close attention. I’m so happy to see you liked Rose’s story. I think by pursuing writing, I could find another way to get connected to more people at a different level and share my experiences and ideas the same way I share them with my patients. Writing gave me this great opportunity and I’m very grateful for that.
      Good luck with the draw!

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  3. I enjoyed reading every chapter of “On Loving”. I loved the story, the poems, the quotes and specially Siavash’s character in your book. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to understand different aspects of Love.

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    • Thanks for the kind words. It makes me so happy to know that you enjoyed reading this novel. I tried to look into the difference between unconditional and conditional love, using Dean and Siyavash’s characters as you might have noticed. LOVE can be really complicated at times! Good luck with the draw!

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  4. It was so nice interacting with you avid readers today. I’d like to thank our host once more for this great opportunity and thank you all for your participation.Enjoy your night!

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